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Safe People

Thursday, March 03, 2016

We all need safe people around us. Safe people are self-aware. They immediately note their impact upon others, and they desire only to be a positive influence in the world. They always seek truth, so their spirit is open and graceful. Their relationships reflect a natural "mutuality", so if something bothers you, it will be their concern. They truly believe that “I am yours, and you are mine” but emphasize more of the “you” and less of the “me”. Safe people see your potential, and they celebrate. They see your hurt, and they nurture those tender places. Safe people see your dark side, and they love you into the light. They seek to “know” and to “be known”, and intimacy comes easy for them. Safe people have a natural sequence of experience that is always looking upward, inward, and only then, outward. This makes them guided more by their heart than by their psyche. It’s natural to seek safe people, but our striving should be in the direction of becoming that way! It’s challenging, but very rewarding work.

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Election-Cycle Advice

Thursday, February 18, 2016
The next time you find yourself in a debate or an argument, here are four things to remember. 

(1) First, facts don’t trump beliefs. If there is a disagreement, it's at the core likely to be about what the parties believe, and not about any one point of fact. Simply put, we are “wired” to receive facts that support our beliefs, and to discard those that don’t. And if that point isn’t powerful enough, consider this. 

(2) When we press facts that are contrary to a defensive belief system, they only serve to make that belief system stronger! Do yourself a favor, and give that notion some very deep thought. People have a serious investment in their sense of mastery and self-esteem, which brings me to the third point. 

(3) If people feel competent and good about themselves, then they are more likely to accept new ideas. People who feel challenged and put down do not. It’s a profound knowing that building people up makes them receptive to new information, while proving them wrong closes their minds. 

The question of whether you would rather be “right” or “effective” is quite wise to ask, and the bottom line is this. Argument to the detriment of relationship will always be foolish, so try to think of it this way; my fourth and last point. 

(4) If you passionately build others up, then they just might grow curious about your point of view!



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Reality, really?

Wednesday, June 03, 2015

I think it’s awesome that we can sit next to someone we’ve known forever, experience the very same thing, and then describe two completely different realities. What's really amazing is that we can then choose up sides, and try to decide with great passion who is right, and who is wrong. Reality is a slippery slope, and when I was pressed to define it long ago, I said, “Reality is what most people agree to at any given point in time.” You know, like the earth used to be flat! Reality is only real in isolation, or by consensus. And when it comes to reality, consensus is very hard to achieve. As for me, I like my reality in isolation. I mean, I like my little world of positive illusion, and I respect your right to embrace yours. It takes a lot of grace and intellectual honesty to know that reality isn’t real. It never has been, and it never will be, so don’t get too hung up about it. I suggest we all just relax, and enjoy one another. Someday, we’ll talk about truth.

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Funny People

Sunday, April 12, 2015

As I reached out to my web company with a basic question, they inquired, “What’s the account number, or domain name you’re calling about?” I replied, “I don’t have my account number available, but my domain name is thomaswaterhouse.com”. Immediately, the now animated voice asks, “And who do I have the pleasure of speaking with this evening?” I replied, “Uhhhh, ‘Thomas Waterhouse?’” As the smirk began to form on my face, a wordless voice spoke softly in my heart. “Life is a playground full of funny people, and you’re one of them! Smile, and keep moving”. Our interactions will always be dialed towards befuddling, leading us to righteously set things straight. Just remember, there’s always a deeper voice that’s loving and encouraging. Listen, and act accordingly.

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Hearing Rules!

Sunday, February 23, 2014

"Thomas listens, and he hears too!" That is a cherished accolade from a wise professor many years ago. So, what does it mean to really hear someone? It means being in their midst; understanding. This means standing "as if" you’re in their shoes without losing the "as if" quality. It means setting yourself aside so you have room to absorb their thoughts, and the feelings that go with them. Hearing means you are listening with openness to the possibility of being transformed at the level of your heart. Do you want to know if you're listening or hearing? Well, then here’s the test. If you're just listening, you will be quick with your opinion, argument, or defense when (or before) the other stops speaking. This is selfish division. If you're hearing, then quiet awe will prevail when their words stop, and at least for a moment, it seems only one person is in the room. This is transcendent connection. Listening is good, but hearing rules!

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